Monday, September 23, 2013

Don't Love My Body and I Won't Love Yours

Let me just say that I am no feminist.

I am probably as far from feminism as you could possibly be. Unlike many women of this age, I would probably ENJOY making my significant other a sandwich. Sandwiches rock.

However, something was brought to my attention that is not only worth writing about, it is worth attempting to change a lifestyle of both men and women.

I have overheard conversations of multiple friends where they have commented that they "love their girlfriend/boyfriend's body."

I wonder if  they realize how degrading that is to their significant other. When asked about the relationship or what they like about their partner, all they can think to comment on is a fleeeting product of energy spent on themselves? Out of the hundreds of characteristics; out of the very soul of a person destined for great things, they comment on something that is currently decaying and dying no matter what they do about it?

When my future husband describes me, I don't want to hear that they love my body. They can tell me that in the budoir (hell, if we're in the budoir I should know that they love it wink wink) I don't want to hear that I'm sexy or hot. I want to hear that I am worth loving; every piece of me- every ounce of the soul that lives forever is worth serving. That my faults are just as wonderful as my strengths because that is what makes me ME. That the amount of muscle in my thighs and stomach are not nearly as comparable to the amount of time I read the Bible or desire to grow closer to my Savior. That they are not hungry for my flesh; no, that they are hungry for my soul.

I will leave nothing to be desired in my body; it is a temple and I want to treat it that way. But that is not worth loving. I am worth loving. Trinity Cuff is worth loving.


theguide42 said...

I think you can love both body and soul.

After all...we're made up of both. If you only love somebody's soul and not their body, you don't really love them!

I mean...what if Stephen Hawking's wife told him, "I love your soul, but not your body." That would probably make him type sad things on his little computer.

Virgil T. Morant said...

Out of the hundreds of characteristics; out of the very soul of a person destined for great things, they comment on something that is currently decaying and dying no matter what they do about it?

Hm. What if we split the diff here. Something like, "I love my wife's body, because it is decaying and dying like no other body I have every seen!" That'd put a gleam in any woman's eye who was fortunate enough to be married to such a gent ... and inspire envy in the rest.

I agree, by the way, with the sentiment of your post, and I would probably count it high on the list of annoyances when anyone says for whatever reason at all that his woman has a sexy body. That's just bad manners. Your bro may be on to something about bodies and souls (I'd throw in spirit too), but I'd sooner reject a person for developing an atrocious soul than for developing an atrocious body--whatever that might be.

Oh my, what a complicated topic this turned out to be.

And in conclusion, I think that all can readily agree that no one wants Stephen Hawking typing sad things on his computer. That much would be the most heart-rending outcome of all. So, whatever we can do to prevent that!

David Cuff said...

I really enjoyed this post and the comments that followed. I do believe we need to love the whole person and not just someone's body. That would be shallow and clearly does not carry any relationship through disagreements and difficulties. But to ignore physical attraction is also missing something God built into human nature. I agree our culture has placed crazy expectations upon the body and markets flesh like a liquor store sells booze. Our soul and spirit are expressed through our physical bodies. This will also be the case in our resurrected bodies for all of eternity. But I agree with the post....we place too much emphasis upon what the body looks like rather than the whole person. Great post!