a couple weeks ago i posted something that i truly believed at the time; while i still believe it, i have perspectified it.
i told the world that i think i am beautiful. why did i do that? so i could sound conceited? definitely not, because the type of beauty that i was talking about was definitely made of up inner beauty and a full and enriching personality. Even still, a full personality and inner beauty is not attractive. some may think it is, but i am under the impression that if there are two girls in a room, one has beautiful physical features and one is average but has a "beautiful personality," there is no way in hell that any sane guy would go up to the average girl unless he has a confidence problem. I agree that further on in a relationship, if the hot girl turns out to be a total wierdo, then yes, he might look back on that room and say, wow. the average girl was probably the better choice. But honestly, what girl in their right mind would want to be chosen second? That is probably the worst insult a guy can throw at a girl, that they aren't good enough to be chosen first, and are left for second best. Ew. i hate that phrase. No girl deserves to be second best. Find a guy that chooses you first. Don't be the leftovers. Have some self respect.
i still hold fast to the theory that innerbe
auty does nothing without outerbeauty. and i make them into one word because that's the only reason there is beauty. Either its inside or outside; either way, its there. and beauty can't be by itself. it has to have a factor of something that MAKES it beautiful. beauty cannot survive by itself. it needs a host.. and people who want to be beautiful hold fast to that beauty, and become the host for that word. be beautiful. choose it. embrace it. but make sure that your outer beauty is more important than innerbeauty, because as long as you aren't dead, it won't matter if you are nice, kind, meek, smart, self respecting, modest, or generous. You are still gonna be ugly.
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Totally feel you there, girl. I think about that more often than I should, to be honest, but I strongly believe it's true.
I am not sure if you meant to imply that outer beauty is more important than inner beauty but if so, I disagree. While it may seem like looks are everything (and with most guys probably is), but in God's sight, and any guy who is pursuing God at all, a godly woman is most attractive to them. Hands down. Every time.
Sure, guys are visual and it helps to helps to be pretty AND godly but 1 Peter 1: 3-4 says, "Do not let your adorning be external -the braiding of hair, the wearing of gold, or the putting on of clothing-but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious."
I've had many godly guyfriends tell me that it's disgusting for girls to dress the way most guys think is "attractive" e.g. low cut shirts, low rise pants, heavy make-up.. Several of them have told me that if you just try to look nice and presentable that's all they want. It's a turn off to them for girls to dress provocatively. Ask your brother.
Seriously, don't fall for the trap that outside matters more. It is NOT true, and any guy who thinks otherwise doesn't love you for who you truly are. No girl wants to be picked second, but no girl wants to be loved for all her amenities and then be cast off for the next seductive girl. Be wise, be patient, and be content in God.
Like I told a guy friend yesterday, Why would God give you something good now when you can't be contented with Him? He's not going to give you something to be replaced with.
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